We are not as alone as we think. Reading this heading, I’m sure you assumed this was another Alien conspiracy theory. No, it’s not. In Life, we face so many difficulties, we start to believe we are alone or its peculiar to just us, so we slowly start to alienate ourselves. You even start to question your friendship ethics or the true allegiance of your friends. The truth is, if you don’t speak out and ask for help you would never know how many people are struggling with the same thing.
Now, this is not about suicide, this is about the depression that may or may not lead to suicide. I spoke to a friend today who was explaining some of the problems he was facing and how his thought process was coping. Strangely enough, I kept finishing his sentences (and no, we aren’t in a relationship). It just goes to show, if he never spoke up, he would assume he was alone, not knowing at some point in my life I was going through the same thing. It’s easy for people to ask, ‘what do you like doing, what do you enjoy’? Never feel pressured to answer. If you don’t know you don’t know, if you’re not certain, that’s that about that.
I was and still am at a phase in my life where that question confuses me. I enjoy so many things, I want to do so many things and I believe I can thrive at so many other things. Societal standards are the worst, and the day I said to myself ‘ fuck it’ was the day I began to enjoy real happiness and freedom. Never feel tensioned to have it all figured out. If you’re trying and things just can’t get right, chill. Answers will come to you when they need to come, when the time is right.
You are never alone, speak out, ask for help, learn to confide, you’d be surprised how many people are in the same situation or feel the same as you. Sooner rather than later, we would all be alright. Peace and Love.
I don’t know if I’m the only one that finds clubs boring. The excessively loud music, people constantly rubbing shoulders and brushing against you, the forced conversations and the notion that you must ‘have fun’. To me, it’s all tiring as hell. I never have fun at clubs, I can’t really point out the reason why, because I think it’s a combination of many reasons. The mindset that you must go to the club to blow off steam is just stupid.
There are so many other ways to blow off steam that are a lot less noisy and to be honest, soothing. I’m not here, saying clubs are entirely bad, and acting like I haven’t gone clubbing before. I’ve been to tons of clubs so that’s why I can tell you, you don’t want to go that way. I’m just saying I can think of a bunch of reasons why you should invest your time and money in other things.
For starters, you’re forced to spend money you most likely did not budget, because you must get a drink or drinks. And imaging you are going with other people, you might have to sort their bills out as well. Two; other people are in your personal space and breathing your air and three; seriously, people are forced into your personal space, go home and give it a rest. That may sound like me being very extreme, but I just can’t stand the idea of people I don’t know standing so close to me.
The cinemas are one way to go, you are guaranteed peace and quiet at a late night movie (if you love moving at night). Bars are another, you can try house chills with friends or maybe, going to church (just maybe). I can understand young adults and teens wanting to die at clubs, they’re at that time of their lives when the need to explore and experience these things is at an all-time high. But if you’re in your late 20’searly 30’s and you’re still clubbing like your life depended on it, you need to re-evaluate yourself. Peace and Love.