Chill Pill


       I Realized not too long ago that in Life, people treat you like shit (excuse my French) and get upset when you respond by equally treating them like shit (excuse my French again).  Even the good lord says love your neighbour as yourself, which I interpret as; whatever you would not like me to do to you, don’t do or say to me. I personally try to live by this principle, but at the end of the day I’m just a human being and sometimes I get pissed off as well (often).
I’m not one of those holier than thou guys, I don’t always take the moral highroad. I like to think I’m a stand-up guy, I tell it as it is always. It’s easy to say to someone ‘keep calm and don’t lose your cool’, but all that’s easier said than done. Sometimes it’s hard to keep your cool. The way Nigeria is set up ehn, even if you were Mahatma Gandhi and you were on a peace path, someone would always come and want to turn you to Shina Rambo. Mr. /Mrs. X&Y comes along and say something you consider stupid, act stupid, knowingly or unknowingly piss you off and then it all comes on top.
You’ll try to stay on your own and keep to yourself, they’ll still want to drag you out of your shell and talk to you, and before the end of the conversation, basically upset the hell out of you. I’m not saying anger is the way, so watch it. Don’t allow yourself to get carried away by stupid things that would in turn unravel a series of unfortunate events e.g. you get in a physical fight, you hurt yourself, you get into it verbally and words are said that can’t be taken back (no matter the amount of sorry offered). If you don’t like someone or something, tolerate them/it, it won’t last forever. To all the people that have pissed me off recently, I usually conduct monthly slaughter house style killings in my mind so you’re dead to me (that’s a lie, I’m just fronting. Apologizing usually does it for me). 
I always say that you owe an explanation only to the people you love, so if I’ve hurt you ever, I’m sorry. Believe it or not, I’m only human (no matter how god-like my features may seem) and all I can say is sorry.  Peace and love.

Old Notes


      The Nigerian music industry has gone through such a change its almost unrecognizable. If you are an 80’s kid like me or even if you’re from the early 90’s, you would notice that the sort of music we listen to has evolved over time and morphed into such a beautiful thing. I remember the artists and way of life back then, music was everything to most people, most especially loners and ASBO kids like me. 
What ever happened to people like Triple B, Lexy doo, Jazz man Olofin, Sasha P, Clench, konga, Kelly Hansome, etc. Those people gave us bangers back then. I remember that year of the big cowboy belts you could customize (I could have killed for one of those), and lest I forget, the custom T-shirts with a car plate number. This nostalgia today ehn, I can almost smell the body odour from all the jam-packed house parties I attended back then.
One time, my best friend and I were obtained (if you’re street savvy and woke in the naija sense, you’ll understand what I mean) and almost thrown off the roof of a rooftop house party, back in 2000. The scene has changed so much, with new artists coming out every day and all trying to make a name for themselves. 
In the midst of all these, let’s not forget the people and songs that help to put the scene on the map. When you have the time, listen to 2faces True love, Lexy doo’s Baby Ske Ske, Ruggedman’s Baraje, Sasha P’s Adara, OJB and kc Presh’s Pretete, konga’s Baby konga, Kelly Hansome’s True Love, Maga don pay, Free me, Dee b’s Collabo, Ay.coms Pass me your love, klever jays koni koni love, Igboro ti daru, Olu maintain’s Jedi jedi, Duncan Mighty’s Ijeoma, Obianuju, Styl plus’s Olufunmi, Terry G’s free madness and a whole lot more. Basically, anything that tickles your fancy.
 If you can, drop a comment on their twitter from time to time, if you see them on the street; salute a king, so they don’t feel too lost in this new music wave. Peace and Love.

Savings and Loans

      I don’t know about you but for me, saving money is hard as nails. It’s so annoying that once you get to a certain age where you are perceived as a young adult, you’re supposed to get into school, open an account, start saving for your future and get your life in order basically. Gone are the days of ’kolo’ when saving money was so easy, it didn’t even seem like hard work. It’s all becomes so very advanced and clustered, because as an adult you are required to do certain things, and I find myself saying repeatedly to myself ’I don’t want to adult anymore’.
Most of us instead of taking our money to the bank, would rather put it at the back of our wardrobes or underneath our clothes, under our beds and pillows, thinking this way we can keep track of it better, while making the same unanimous promise to ourselves ‘I will not spend this money’ (Yea right).If you are a foodie like me, that is just the worst thing you could do to yourself. By the days end, I’ve already indulged myself in Digestive chocolate, kilishi and the occasional Mr Cream yogurt, and somehow, I keep complaining and wondering why I don’t have any money. 
To be very honest, saving money simply requires discipline and dedication. You don’t need to do certain money consuming things, deny yourself of some luxuries you would otherwise partake in; stay away from habits that would strain your finances. Instead of frivolous spending, there are tons of schemes that act as a makeshift way of saving your money and getting a profit at the same time e.g. MMM, Donation Hub etc. Saving money is the first step to securing your future, it shows that you have plans for yourself and you are working or rather saving to achieve them. 
This 2017, lets save a little more, stop unnecessary buying, pull out your sweet tooth with pliers, stay away from all that beer, think twice before you spend someone’s salary on that shoe or handbag. What’s the word? Spend less, save more. Peace and Love.

Contentment

       A lot of people mistake contentment for being complacent, I believe they are two different things. Being contented as we know, is being satisfied with whatever you have. While being complacent in my opinion is being unduly (for lack of a better word) smug with your achievements and not striving for more. Are you getting the picture of how these two things see similar but are not the same? You tell the average person you are contented, and they assume you are lazy and unwilling to progress for more. 
So many people zombing around, sad and constantly wanting more or giving themselves sleepless nights over what they can’t/don’t have. I believe in every situation, we should always try to take away the positives and just leave the negatives. For me, if the positives don’t want to come easy, I drag them out begging and crying because I refuse to be sad. Lack of contentment = wanting what you don’t or can’t have, which invariably = a head and heart ache, which = a very unhealthy state of mind and body generally.
Your salary is not enough? Curb your excesses. You really don’t need to go to the club every Friday (seriously, who even does that?) You don’t need all those girlfriends/boyfriends, expecting you to call them (topping up your phone with credit constantly is expensive), you don’t have a car or money for Uber; no need to pose, enter BRT (those blue ones), they are lovely. I could go on and on about things you should or shouldn’t do but lets not. Instead of focusing on what you don’t have, focus on what you do and try to achieve more for yourself. Set goals, be determined to achieve those goals, you need to want to have a better life than what you already have.
No one or nothing holds the keys to your happiness but you. Is it better to cry in a Bentley instead of in a bus, err YES; but make do with what you have while trying to get the Bentley or consoling yourself with the picture of a Bentley framed in your room. You’re fixed on the things you don’t have so you are losing the ones that are being thrown your way. In a race, every runner focuses on himself and his lane. not that of the next man. You will be fine, let life run its course. Peace and Love.