Women; the new alphas

In the not too distant past, I began to notice a paradigm shift or emerging trend where women have taken control of almost all spheres of hustling and leadership. This trend ushered in the era of the new woman; an improved version 2.0 of her former self. I like to concern myself with the beginning of a process, so I’m wondering when this ‘shift in lifestyle’ decision was made. Women nowadays or women 2.0 (for the sake of this conversation) are so changed you would be sorely mistaken to overlook them or refer to them as lazy, mediocre, or irrelevant. So my question is ‘When exactly did the woman become the leader of the pack’?

 I really can’t remember the last time I saw a girl that didn’t have a dream, a girl that wasn’t up to something or a girl that didn’t feel she could exist and excel independent of a man. Yes, you still have what some may refer to as your basic bottom brained girls with no ambition, but even they are gradually being phased out and replaced by version 2.0’s. I was at a gathering last weekend where someone was talking about how he had noticed the exact same thing too, and I immediately thought to myself ‘so I’m not mad after all’. Gone are the days when a woman’s contribution in society was swept under the rug because she was simply a woman, nowadays women have created a lane for themselves and own that lane. Versions 2.0 are bosses, serial doers, brains, creators, and leaders juggling multiple things while still slaying effortlessly.

Even she knows it

Women are manning businesses in terrains that were previously unexplored and seemingly mundane. Even in relationships, they no longer wear their hearts on their sleeves. And if these Tik Tok relationship questions are anything to go by- they show that most men said I love you first and most men are more emotionally invested in the relationship than the women. Not like who said ‘I love you first’ is a competition, but that place was traditionally meant for the woman. I must confess, sometimes it feels kind of creepy: like they are the new us, but it is what it is. Lately I’ve been meeting a string of hustler girls that own fashion brands, digital agencies, cleaning services, makeup empires, music businesses and the list is endless.  

As a man, I definitely don’t feel threatened or think ‘o damn, let’s put a stop to it’. To me, it’s more like a breath of fresh air. You may start to think I’m bashing men, or I’m whipped or whatever, but I kid you not; in almost every area of society, look and you’ll find a woman excelling. Which is why, the gender equality conversation is almost at its end. Women demanded a seat at the table, weren’t given one and decided to take it regardless. I respect and salute you all. For us men, it’s easy to feel some type of way and think power is being taken away from us, I don’t think so. I think we now have proper power-sharing, a concept that is foreign to most of our misogynistic minds. Peace and love

After Rona

Almost like a sweet song or a sweet dance accompanying a sweet song ‘Rona’ seems to be all we can talk about these days. You head over to social media to let off steam, Rona. You go on WhatsApp to chat with friends, Rona. Nowadays, it seems like the news we were all running away from has become our only respite. At least you still find some TV stations showing something other than Corona. The second phase of the lockdown has reached how many days now? 7 to be precise. I just completed its first week out of two weeks, and safe to say I’ve never been so bored in my life.

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The descent

    Through the years, it has always been said that Nigeria would experience a great revolution. A revolution where the poor would pick up arms against the elite and the ruling class, a power tussle between the haves and have-nots, a violent rat race. I myself strongly believe in this theory because; the gap between the privileged and less privileged is so wide and deep, you will need a speed boat to wade through those waters. The state lockdown that stemmed from coronavirus ushered in a new wave of agitations that the government obviously did not take into account.

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Are we the problem?

     Good afternoon everyone, ‘Eku corona o’. I pray you’ve all been well and are keeping safe. We can, and will get through this only by sticking with each other and practicing social distancing (i understand how much of a juxtaposition this is), but you get my drift. Now that we’re all gradually been forced to sit at home, I’ve been pondering on something, and I thought I’d share. By a show of hands (or not), who remembers 5-7 years ago when the biggest problem on the world’s plate was Global warming? 
 
It was all every country could talk about, and even we here in Nigeria were not exempted from that conversation. One of the root causes of Global warming was identified as over population, others include the likes of pollution e.t.c. The earth’s resources were being depleted at an alarming rate, coast lines were receding and climate conditions became largely unpredictable. America (with the help of NASA) and a couple of other countries, took it upon themselves to explore other avenues aimed at population control i.e. NASA’s space flights and checks to see if other planets were inhabitable, and if mars had breathable air that could sustain life bla bla bla. 

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Ona Kan O Woja.

For Deenma,
“Ona kan o woja” is a Yoruba phrase that literally means ‘one way doesn’t enter the market’.  When you break it down and redefine it, it simply means: there are numerous ways into the market- not just one. Life has never been a one way thing or a one size fits all thing. If one route doesn’t work, explore another. At any given time, there are always like 3 different ways by which you can achieve something. I really hate one trick pony’s or people that have a set mentality i.e. it’s supposed to be done this way. Okay, but why can’t it go this way? If you’re not certain that success cannot be achieved that way, I strongly feel considering that route should be an option. 

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The man in the mirror

      Never tie your happiness to anything. The dictionary defines fulfillment as the achievement of something desired or promised, or the meeting of a condition or requirement. Going by this definition, we can all deduce that it’s a temporary emotion. Obviously, fulfillment is not a constant. Upon attaining a set goal: you are most likely going to lose steam as you already feel fulfilled in the fact that you achieved that goal. So it would be silly to tie your ‘long-lasting’ happiness to something, or say ‘my happiness is defined by x and y. I made that mistake once Read here.

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TAKING RESPONSIBILITY

       Get off your high horse and realize you’ve been just as bad a friend to other people as they’ve been to you. More often than not, we tend to see the fault in others and put the blame on them when in reality; we’re just as bad as they are. Your friend’s don’t check up on you, when last did you check up on them? They don’t support your business? When was the last time you supported their business endeavors? The smallest things go a long way, so you have no idea how big your small gesture would look in the eye of someone who really needs it. A retweet here and there literally never hurt anybody. To a lot of small business owners and other people just starting up, 1 retweet can go a long way in improving business or boosting someone’s morale.  

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LAGOS NA WA

        The Nigerian government has been making a lot of questionable decisions lately. First off, there was the decision to allow Chinese people that went for the Chinese New Year back into the country following the threat of Corona virus. Wouldn’t it have been more sensible to just suspend flights to and from china? The WHO last week certified it a global threat, and taking into consideration the amount of Chinese people in Nigeria, I would say we’re at risk. The Chinese new year obviously didn’t usher in good tidings: because just weeks after the Corona outbreak, Lassa fever outbreak was recorded in yet another province. Last last, they go dey alright.

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All is Vanity

      This life is nothing but vanity. Anyone that knows me knows that I’m not one to jump on trends or jump on hype. But for the past couple of days, I’ve been seeing this name definition thing online and wondering what it’s all about. It’s simple, how it works is: you type your name into an app, and the app would define you.  The anxiety to find out what it would say about me was quickly building and I needed to find out. I was intrigued about it, it was everywhere: Instagram, WhatsApp, and other Social networking sites. 

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Baby daddy issues

I’ve been wondering, does the system of law still work in Nigeria? Since we’re on the issue of marriage, relationships, and baby mamas- I felt it would be nice to share this one and hear your thoughts. Asides men like Adam who take it upon themselves to do their due diligence by catering for their children Read here, does court-mandated spousal or child support actually work in Nigeria?

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