13 days and counting

In the past 3 days, we’ve seen an unprecedented display of Anarchy from our beacon of hope (America) that has been nothing short of surprising. We all grew up thinking America can do no wrong: they’re a classic example of a country that gets it right every time. I mean, they were the shining example we all guided ourselves by – but whoever thought they would descend into chaos? The story of America can be summarized as a man losing an election, a man refusing to accept defeat, and a man that is willing to drag America’s democracy through the mud to have his will done.

After his defeat at the hands of Joe Biden at the presidential election, my first incline that ‘he-who-will-not-be-named’ wasn’t going to take it nicely was when he started claiming the election wasn’t free or fair and began ordering recounts,  even made some states stop counting votes all because he wasn’t winning. At this time, it was obvious this man wasn’t planning on going away quietly. Through an inciting speech in which he charged ‘well-meaning Americans’ to take the capitol, we witnessed windows broken, offices occupied, disruption of sittings, and ultimately the death of a protester/domestic terrorist/rioter.

This greatly reminds me of all those Nigerian senate clips that surface every now and again, of chairs being thrown in the house, the mace being carried away etc. Alas, America is no different. America is just Nigeria that studied abroad. The general consensus is that before the official handover from him to Joe on the 20th of January which is in 13 days’ time, something has to be done because the safety of America is in jeopardy under his rule. Some are calling to invoke the 25th amendment so he can be impeached, others are calling for his resignation – I would rather like him to go through the embarrassment of being impeached.

I also think he should be arrested and paraded immediately after on grounds of ‘just because’ simply because he has put the world through so much stress. The world because: for several failed states where it is impossible to have a free and fair election or election without violence, you can trust that they will see this as a criterion for inciting violence after their election. If America can have a botched election, why can’t we? The truth is the world loves to copy America, and this is just another thing that would go through the photocopier. He has shown that America is not as saintly as we think it is, because as terrible as DT’s policies are he still has people that support them and believe in him. The next 13 days until handover is crucial. All we can do is speculate as to what may happen. As for the political parties, if democracy couldn’t bring them together, tragedy certainly has. Sources like CNN are claiming that everyone wants him out i.e democratic stakeholders and republicans alike. January 20 is just around the corner, or is it? Until then, we wait. Peace and love.

How to own your side of the crossover fence

Im going to save everyone the pain of reading through my explanation as to where I’ve been and whatnot, It’s really too late in the year for that- so let’s let bygones be bygones. Besides, you’re better off without any shady form of explanation from me, I assure you. I’m here now, and that’s all that matters. The year has been crazy for the most part, and I’m sure a lot of us can’t wait to get it over with. In my usual fashion of not sticking to the norm, I won’t treat you like babies and give you a ‘review of the year’ post like you didn’t just experience it yourselves, instead, I’m going to talk about something that always weighs heavy on my mind especially this time of the year.

Before I get into it, let me give you a quick backstory. Yesterday I was on the phone with an old friend, someone I consider religious. While we were speaking, she asked me what I intended to do for crossover seen as each year before this one I always attend a church cross-over service to ring in the new year. I answered that question and it got us talking. The said person pointed out to me that she hadn’t attended any crossover service or been to church on New Year’s Day in almost 4 years. As a matter of fact, last year as opposed to going to church she went to see the ball drop at Times Square, New York, and then went back home. No church, nothing. At this point, the discussion begged the question I’d always had in my head of what’s the difference between going to church to ring in the New Year and attending a party/social gathering instead?

Is going to church for crossover a guarantee that you will have a good year, or is not attending a determinant of you having a bad year? There’s absolutely nothing wrong with being a religious person, but I can say with first-hand experience that not going to church for crossover in this side of the world definitely feels like a sin. Is it a sin borne out of years of mental conditioning or is it an actual sin? That is left to be decided. What would you say of the people that don’t really care much for church crossovers and party into the New Year but still knocked out their goals, or people that struggle immensely during the year even after the New Year services? We concluded with her saying in her opinion, people who spend their crossover outside the church have more faith than people that spend it in church.

Subsequently, I had a similar discussion with another deeply religious person who disagreed with the above statement, saying religion is a personal thing. Deciding on where to spend your crossover is also a personal decision, and there’s absolutely nothing wrong with either. When I asked her if not attending crossover service made a person less Christian, she replied by saying that personal as it is, certain things are expected of you as a Christian. Being a Christian, people would automatically expect that you should spend your crossover in church, as opposed to anywhere else. What does it mean now that a lot of crossover services are going to be online? No definitive satisfactory response from both discussions because I tend to agree with both. Sometimes you love to fellowship with the body of Christ and sometimes you can do something else, doesn’t make you less or more. Keep in mind that Christianity is being Christ-like not being Christ himself. Either way, neither a church service nor a party is a determinant of you having an amazing year. That being said, I wish you the best in this New Year. A year in which all your dreams come true. Peace and Love

Women; the new alphas

In the not too distant past, I began to notice a paradigm shift or emerging trend where women have taken control of almost all spheres of hustling and leadership. This trend ushered in the era of the new woman; an improved version 2.0 of her former self. I like to concern myself with the beginning of a process, so I’m wondering when this ‘shift in lifestyle’ decision was made. Women nowadays or women 2.0 (for the sake of this conversation) are so changed you would be sorely mistaken to overlook them or refer to them as lazy, mediocre, or irrelevant. So my question is ‘When exactly did the woman become the leader of the pack’?

 I really can’t remember the last time I saw a girl that didn’t have a dream, a girl that wasn’t up to something, or a girl that didn’t feel she could exist and excel independent of a man. Yes, you still have what some may refer to as your basic bottom brained girls with no ambition, but even they are gradually being phased out and replaced by version 2.0’s. I was at a gathering last weekend where someone was talking about how he had noticed the exact same thing too, and I immediately thought to myself ‘so I’m not mad after all’. Gone are the days when a woman’s contribution to society was swept under the rug because she was simply a woman, nowadays women have created a lane for themselves and own that lane. Versions 2.0 are bosses, serial doers, brains, creators, and leaders juggling multiple things while still slaying effortlessly.

Even she knows it

Women are manning businesses in terrains that were previously unexplored and seemingly mundane. Even in relationships, they no longer wear their hearts on their sleeves. And if these Tik Tok relationship questions are anything to go by- they show that most men said I love you first and most men are more emotionally invested in the relationship than the women. Not like who said ‘I love you first’ is a competition, but that place was traditionally meant for the woman. I must confess, sometimes it feels kind of creepy: like they are the new us, but it is what it is. Lately, I’ve been meeting a string of hustler girls that own fashion brands, digital agencies, cleaning services, makeup empires, music businesses, and the list is endless.  

As a man, I definitely don’t feel threatened or think ‘o damn, let’s put a stop to it’. To me, it’s more like a breath of fresh air. You may start to think I’m bashing men, or I’m whipped or whatever, but I kid you not; in almost every area of society, look and you’ll find a woman excelling. This is why the gender equality conversation is almost at its end. Women demanded a seat at the table, weren’t given one, and decided to take it regardless. I respect and salute you all. For us men, it’s easy to feel some type of way and think power is being taken away from us, I don’t think so. I think we now have proper power-sharing, a concept that is foreign to most of our misogynistic minds. Peace and love

After Rona

Almost like a sweet song or a sweet dance accompanying a sweet song ‘Rona’ seems to be all we can talk about these days. You head over to social media to let off steam, Rona. You go on WhatsApp to chat with friends, Rona. Nowadays, it seems like the news we were all running away from has become our only respite. At least you still find some TV stations showing something other than Corona. The second phase of the lockdown has reached how many days now? 7 to be precise. I just completed its first week out of two weeks, and safe to say I’ve never been so bored in my life.

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The descent

    Through the years, it has always been said that Nigeria would experience a great revolution. A revolution where the poor would pick up arms against the elite and the ruling class, a power tussle between the haves and have-nots, a violent rat race. I myself strongly believe in this theory because; the gap between the privileged and less privileged is so wide and deep, you will need a speed boat to wade through those waters. The state lockdown that stemmed from coronavirus ushered in a new wave of agitations that the government obviously did not take into account.
 

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Are we the problem?

     Good afternoon everyone, ‘Eku corona o’. I pray you’ve all been well and are keeping safe. We can, and will get through this only by sticking with each other and practicing social distancing (i understand how much of a juxtaposition this is), but you get my drift. Now that we’re all gradually been forced to sit at home, I’ve been pondering on something, and I thought I’d share. By a show of hands (or not), who remembers 5-7 years ago when the biggest problem on the world’s plate was Global warming? 
 
It was all every country could talk about, and even we here in Nigeria were not exempted from that conversation. One of the root causes of Global warming was identified as over population, others include the likes of pollution e.t.c. The earth’s resources were being depleted at an alarming rate, coast lines were receding and climate conditions became largely unpredictable. America (with the help of NASA) and a couple of other countries, took it upon themselves to explore other avenues aimed at population control i.e. NASA’s space flights and checks to see if other planets were inhabitable, and if mars had breathable air that could sustain life bla bla bla. 

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Ona Kan O Woja.

For Deenma,
 
“Ona kan o woja” is a Yoruba phrase that literally means ‘one way doesn’t enter the market’.  When you break it down and redefine it, it simply means: there are numerous ways into the market- not just one. Life has never been a one-way thing or a one size fits all thing. If one route doesn’t work, explore another. At any given time, there are always like 3 different ways by which you can achieve something. I really hate one-trick ponies or people that have a set mentality i.e. it’s supposed to be done this way. Okay, but why can’t it go this way? If you’re not certain that success cannot be achieved that way, I strongly feel considering that route should be an option. 
 

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The man in the mirror

      Never tie your happiness to anything. The dictionary defines fulfillment as the achievement of something desired or promised, or the meeting of a condition or requirement. Going by this definition, we can all deduce that it’s a temporary emotion. Obviously, fulfillment is not a constant. Upon attaining a set goal: you are most likely going to lose steam as you already feel fulfilled in the fact that you achieved that goal. So it would be silly to tie your ‘long-lasting’ happiness to something or say ‘my happiness is defined by x and y. I made that mistake once Read here.

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TAKING RESPONSIBILITY

       Get off your high horse and realize you’ve been just as bad a friend to other people as they’ve been to you. More often than not, we tend to see the fault in others and put the blame on them when in reality; we’re just as bad as they are. Your friend’s don’t check up on you, when last did you check up on them? They don’t support your business? When was the last time you supported their business endeavors? The smallest things go a long way, so you have no idea how big your small gesture would look in the eye of someone who really needs it. A retweet here and there literally never hurt anybody. To a lot of small business owners and other people just starting up, 1 retweet can go a long way in improving business or boosting someone’s morale.  

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